For grief coaches
For grief coaches and loss practitioners
Grief cannot be chased, and it shouldn’t be. It can still be accompanied, and that is a harder message to write.
Everything about accountability language is wrong here. There’s no homework to be behind on, no streak to keep, no drift to correct. A client who has not opened the module in two weeks isn’t failing at anything, and a message that implies otherwise does real damage.
So most grief practitioners build the opposite: everything optional, replays available, questions welcome whenever. Which is right, and it means the system waits. The person sitting with the unopened module gets silence, and silence in this work is easy to read as being forgotten.
The message that belongs here reaches without requiring anything back. It names what’s true, gives explicit permission for it to stay true, and leaves one door open. That register is difficult to hold and it’s exactly what the drafting is tuned for.
What a check-in actually looks like
Sonia, you didn’t send a question in for this week’s session, and that’s allowed. The new module landed Tuesday and it can sit unopened as long as it needs to. If you’d rather bring it out loud on Thursday, I’ll hold the time.
44 words. Reaches for her without asking her to perform.
It is drafted from what you already know about that one client:
- What the client is actually navigating, in their own words
- What was released or offered, and when
- The permission your practice already gives, kept intact
- One open door, never an expectation
You read it, change what you want, and send it. Nothing reaches a client without you. The client name above is an example; the drafting never invents a name or a detail you did not give it.
Questions grief coaches actually ask
How do you check in on a grieving client without pressuring them?
Say the true thing and give it permission in the same breath. "You did not send a question this week, and that’s allowed" names the fact and removes the implied failure. Then offer one door rather than asking a question that requires an account of themselves. The measure of a good grief check-in is that it costs nothing to receive and ignore. Nothing to answer.
Will an AI-drafted message sound cold in grief work?
It will if you send the first draft, which is why you can’t. Every message waits for you to read it, and in this register most coaches change a word or two on the way through. The drafting also refuses to invent specifics: if you didn’t tell it something, it doesn’t appear, so nothing gets attributed to your client that they never said.
My grief programme is deliberately self-paced. Does a check-in break that?
Only if it’s written as a nudge, and that’s a copy problem rather than a tool problem. A check-in can name a release, restate that it can wait, and offer one alternative, all without introducing a deadline your programme doesn’t have. The promise you made your members stays intact, which is the whole test.
What about a client who is not ready to talk at all?
Then the right message is one that expects no reply and says so. That’s a legitimate check-in, not a failed one. What you get from it isn’t a response, it’s the client knowing they were held in mind on a week they couldn’t participate, which is most of the work.
Try the drafting before you try the tool
The free prompt walks the same six questions and drafts a check-in you can send today. No account, no download. It arrives in one email and it is yours to keep whether or not you ever pay us anything.
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Also written for: ADHD coaches · sobriety coaches
